Week 2 Day 1:
Ever wonder why we want to change some part of our life, but unable to do so because something else was holding us back?
Today, we’ll talk about change resistance - what is it, why it matters, why it happens, and what to do about it.
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Take A Moment And Reflect...
Whenever we talk about change (especially the good kind of change), it's usually associated with discomfort and resistance.
If you're not familiar with the feeling, it comes in the form of procrastination and justifications for not performing the task (a.k.a reasons or excuses).
A common example of this feeling is often demonstrated by individuals who are addicted to smoking or drinking alcohol that are aware of the consequences.
"I know I need to quit, but it's difficult". Sound familiar?
Change is like diving into a pool in the early morning. Your body is still asleep and yearning for the warmth of the body-heated duvet. As you approach the water, the cool breeze brushes off your skin, sending chills to your bones.
There are two ways to go about it:
1) You can jump straight in, get it over quickly or,
2) Go in one limb at a time until your body is fully submerged, taking it slow.
Ultimately, the choice is always yours.
I would do it slowly. Approach the task step by step so I won't associate it with pain. This makes the process bearable in the beginning, sustainable as I progress.
Inversely, short term and fast changes tend to cause relapse. Going cold turkey will usually make the situation unbearable and painful.
The 28-Day Transformation Challenge is all about sustainable and permanent change. You keep your results because you find the process enjoyable (or at least sustainable).
If you choose to do it the slow way by giving yourself time to internalize the change, you can start by asking yourself three questions to facilitate it.
1) On a scale of 1 to 10, how READY are you for change? Why?
2) On a scale of 1 to 10, how WILLING are you for change? Why?
3) On a scale of 1 to 10, how ABLE are you for change? Why?
(Scroll up for the questionnaires.)
Once you're done, compare how you feel and the reality of things. Don't worry about performing the task now, just acknowledge yourself first.
That's all for today.
See you all tomorrow.